I hope that you have had some time to refill your cup and take care of yourself recently.

If you haven't, then I want to ask you, what is it you are choosing to fight for?

What Are You Choosing to Fight For?

During a recent coaching call with one of my clients, we were reviewing her challenges and struggles. She shared with me how frustrated and overwhelmed she had been feeling. Her work is extremely demanding, very high stress, and she puts in a lot of hours. On top of that, she is also very involved with the school district putting in time to change some of the policies. I know she is also very passionate about feeling better. My client has all of these things she wants to learn so she can uplevel the quality of her life and feel better. She just can’t figure out how to fit it all in. The classic case of too many things and so little time. 

Are They Reasons or Excuses?

As we spoke, she gave me all the reasons that things weren't working. That doesn’t work because of this. I don’t have time because of that. I can’t exercise because of this. I tried to this, but I had to do that. And it was just reason after reason after reason. You know excuses don't serve you.

This is something that I see every day. It’s pretty common among all of my high-achieving clients and so many women I interact with, whether they work with me or not. They are all fighting so hard to convince themselves why they can't fit things in, even though those things will make us feel better. 

We spend so much time convincing ourselves that we don't have time to do the simple things that could make such a difference in how we feel. 

• to take a breath
• to do a meditation
• to read a book
• to take a walk

Don't Choose Miserable

We're fighting so hard to be miserable? We seem to want to convince ourselves that we should be miserable.  Why do we fight so hard to be unhappy? 

Instead, we should be fighting so hard to say, this is why I can do it. This is why I can fit it in.

Most of us, including this client, are super high-achieving, very successful in their careers and families. We've gotten to where we've gotten by saying, “yes, I can. Watch me.” most of the time in spite of people telling you you can't. 

But when it comes to your own health, when it comes to your own happiness, all of a sudden, you're the one saying you can't. Where did that I-can-do-it attitude go? Where did the watch-me go? 

Read that again.

An Extra Day a Month

When I was going through this client's story and schedule and we were trying to figure out how to make it all work. I helped her find more than five hours in a week for self care. Five hours. To some of you, that sounds like a lifetime, right? It's time that she could use to meditate, to exercise, to take a bath. She shared with me one of her biggest desires is to be able to take a nice bath. It seems pretty logical an adult woman should be able to take a bath whenever she wanted, but she and so many others, that I help have convinced themselves that they cannot even do the simplest things for themselves because they've got so many other obligations, that there’s too much to do, that there are too many others to help. So something as simple as a bath becomes a luxury and seen as something you don’t deserve for yourself. 

Crazy, right? 

That's why I created self care for female leaders. I see this story repeated over and over and over. 

I want you all to know that you can take the bath. 

You can give yourself some time.

You can make yourself feel better. 

It’s time to start prioritizing your self care without sacrificing. I take highly driven, high achieving women who are stressed out and exhausted, and I help them feel energized and healthy and in control of their time. So they can take a bath, so that they can go for a walk or so they can take a nap. Stop making excuses and start putting yourself first. If this resonates with you, let’s set up a chat and start making YOU a priority because you are worth it.