I know that there's a ton of information out there, you can google anything in the world about health and wellness. I also know that it makes it seem as though you can just do it yourself it'll work out great. But let me tell you why DIY is an absolute DON'T when it comes to your health.

I want to share with you my story, how that did not work for me, and how I was failing and had to get some help along the way. 

A few years ago, I started getting frustrated because I was doing everything right. I was doing the things that everyone else was doing. But I wasn't seeing the results. My body was not responding the way everyone else's was. I got down. I got frustrated. So, I did what I do when I need advice, I had a long conversation with my husband. 

We go backpacking every year, and this particular trip was a real turning point for me. I was really low, I felt terrible about how I looked. I felt terrible in general. I just didn't feel good. Everyone was telling me, “You look great, you're strong.” You're all these things. But I knew how I wanted to look and feel, and I wasn't there. I had been doing all the things that everyone says you should do. 

I found that what works for other people doesn't work for me.

My body is not like everyone else's. 

And neither is yours.

I finally was done. I was done doing 10 times what everyone else was doing, and not seeing the results. I realized I needed help. 

I started with my mindset. I hired a coach, and I committed to shifting my limiting beliefs and changing my thoughts around myself, my body, and my lifestyle. Now you're probably thinking, “Okay, but what about your diet? What about your exercise?” 

If you are not right in your head with yourself, if you are not on the right path mentally, no diet, no exercise plan in the world is going to work for you. I got real with myself about the lies that I was repeating to myself about my body and my lifestyle. I had to be honest with myself, 

“Are you actually doing all the things that everyone says? Are you actually eating well? Are you actually exercising the way that you think you are? Or are you phoning it in?”

I'll be honest, I was lying to myself. 

I was grabbing a handful of this or a few bites of that. Justifying things to myself. If you're telling lies to yourself, that's the first place you have to start. You have to be real with yourself. You have to be honest with yourself. Are you actually doing what you think you're doing? Are you doing it all the time? Are you just doing it most of the time? 

I committed right then and there on that trip to coming home, and sticking to my plan, tracking every single bite, tracking every single sip. It was funny because that's what I was asking my clients to do. But I wasn't doing it. I wasn't doing it because I was afraid. 

I was afraid of failure. 

Raise your hand if failing is a fear of yours. It's one of my biggest fears. But I didn't realize that until I did the mindset work. When I did the mindset work, and I realized that I was not doing what I should be doing because I didn't want to fail. If you haven't had that conversation with yourself to figure out why it's not working. It's time. 

After I had that conversation with myself, I started saying no to a lot of things, and yes to myself. 

That's another big barrier that we often run into when we're trying to look and feel amazing and do all the things. 

We say yes to everyone but no to ourselves. 

We give up that workout so that we can help our kids with something. We give up that meal or we don't make that meal because we're too busy driving people around, working, or serving clients. So, we just grab whatever's close by and shove it in our mouth. 

I had to start saying no and it was hard. It was really hard. It's still hard. Last night, I had a conversation with myself again because a year ago, when everything stopped, I made a promise to myself that I would never again, let my life get that crazy. Before the shutdowns in 2020, I was going 1000 miles per hour. I was still prioritizing myself. But looking back, I was pretty stressed out. 

When everything shut down, I was never happier. 

That sounds terrible, right? But it didn't have to go anywhere. I didn't have to do anything. I could enjoy my morning cup of coffee as long as I wanted. I could work out as long as I wanted. I could spend the day with my kids. I could do whatever. I made a promise to myself that when things ramped back up again, I would not allow my calendar to rule my life. 

It has started ruling my life lately. So last night, I did what I did years ago, I said no to a lot of things. I rescheduled meetings. I canceled things. I just told people “I'm sorry, I'm over-committed this week, and I just can't make it”. It was the best feeling ever. Because now I know that for this week, I don't have to give up my workout. 

I am not willing to sacrifice myself for anyone anymore.  

That is why I created Self-Care for Female Leaders. 

Because I know there are so many women struggling like I was, and you just want to feel better. You know it's important, but between work and family obligations, you are not getting what you need. With this program, I have been able to help my clients reduce their stress, they have the energy to do all the things and they don't live on caffeine to do it. 

• They're not just making it through 2 pm before they desperately grab whatever drink is loaded with caffeine to get them through the last push of the day. 
• They're getting through feeling awesome, feeling relaxed, feeling satisfied, and feeling accomplished. 
• They're able to be all the things to all the people without feeling absolutely spent. 
• They're proud of their bodies. 
• They feel great when they look in the mirror.
• They're able to do anything they desire without worrying that their body won't let them or help them or fail them. 
• Yet, they don't feel restricted. 
• They don't feel deprived. 
• They don't feel trapped. 

It is amazing. It is the most freeing, rewarding feeling ever to put yourself back at the top of the list, and still be able to serve everyone that you love and care about. So, if this is resonating with you, if this feels like your story, or like it, I want you to call me, send me an email, send me a DM, and just say help.

Because I want to help you. I want you to feel better. I want you to feel less stressed. I want you to feel amazing when you look in the mirror. So click here to schedule a call and let’s do this!