The Either / Or Fallacy 

I want to stop the madness.

I’m here to tell you, life doesn’t have to be about “either/or.” It can be “both/and.” Hard stop.

You can make money, run a business, be an amazing mom, be a great friend, be a great partner, eat healthy food, exercise, walk 10,000 steps, you can do all of those things. And still sleep. You can be a superwoman, you can get seven hours of sleep, and you can feel amazing while you're doing it. I know because I do it. I get seven hours of sleep consistently every single night. Sure, the random nights that I don't because things happen. Absolutely. But sleep is such a priority to me that I make sure my life has room for that and all the things. 

You're thinking, I want to do all these things. I want to exercise, I want to eat healthily, I want to meditate, I want to go outside and play with my kids. But I can't fit it in. How do I fit it in? I'm telling you, it's possible. It just takes a little bit of prioritization and some soul searching. I think a lot of times we forget to be honest with ourselves when we're trying to do all these things.

“But there’s not enough time. . . “

But I bet you do. 

I want you to ask yourself a couple questions. 

1.) How much TV have you watched in the last three days? 

2.) How much time have you spent on social media?
3.) How much idle time do you have? 

This is a no-judgment zone. I love social media. But there's a time and a place and an app on your phone so can tell you how many hours you've been on that stupid thing. Idle time is the time sitting in the carpool line, waiting in a doctor's office, waiting in between zoom calls; there's a lot of idle time. 

If you take a look at those three areas, you will be able to find time for all the things you want. Your excuses aren't serving  you when it comes to reaching your goals.

How do you do it all? 

The biggest thing that we lack in the ability to be able to do that is planning. 

You have to plan it. If it's a priority for you, and you put it on your calendar, it will happen. Remember, you are in control of your time. So, if exercise is a priority for you, put it on your calendar, block it out every single day. I know for me, I am unavailable until noon for most people, because that is when I do my exercise. That is when I have my me time. That is when I do things that are really important to taking care of myself. So maybe it's not that long. Maybe it's only 9 - 10am but if you block it out on your calendar, like a doctor's appointment or a dentist's appointment, it will happen every single day. You just have to guard that time with everything you got.

You have to believe. 

A few weeks ago on the blog, I asked you to think about your life if you really could have it all. Honestly, I think you underestimate yourself. Has that hit you? I talked to so many women all the time who, for one reason or another go around believing they are unable or incapable of doing do all the things that they want to do. They underestimate their own power, they underestimate their own strength, and they underestimate their own abilities. I'm here to tell you that you can do and be, and have all the things that you want to have if you just believe it. 

One of the biggest challenges I face when I'm coaching my clients is helping them to believe in themselves as much as I believe in them. That is the number one thing that stops us from getting what we want. If there's something that you have been thinking about for a while that you've been wanting to achieve, whether it's balanced with work and life and kids, or if it's feeling better, if it's more energy, if it's less stress, you can have it, you can do it, you just have to believe it. 

And I can help you believe it. If you give me the opportunity to sit down with you, I can show you why not only you can but you deserve to have do or be all the things that you've been wanting. The only person holding you back is you. If you're struggling with getting enough sleep, if you're struggling with being able to be Superwoman and do all the things, let me know. Reach out, I can help you. We can find the extra time, we can make sure you get enough sleep. I promise you, there are enough hours in the day, and you are worth every single minute of them.